“Though you grind a fool in a mortar, grinding him like a grain with a pestle, you will not remove his folly from him.” (Proverbs 27:22)
The truth is, I cannot change another person. They may act different to get my approval, but it’s a shallow adjustment that will undo itself over time. Unless someone has a genuine desire within themselves to change, they will remain as they are. I can’t blame myself for their foolishness and immaturity. As much as I try help them, to change them, to enable them to better themselves, it is not me who can ultimately move them.
As foolish as they may be, I am just as foolish to think I can make them otherwise. It is my own narcissistic way of controlling life. It’s also foolish of me to think that I can change someone, as if I myself do not need to change. It is in the secret moments of self-reflection that I find myself looking more like the foolishness I so despise in the other person. Maybe it is myself I am grinding like a grain with a pestle.
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